Anyway months ago when my then boyfriend, Doug asked me about living overseas, I said that it wouldn't be a problem as long as I could find 'ethnic' hair care products. Well I can find some here and the rest I can order online, but that's not the gist of my issues. I have found that no matter how much I liked to think that I wasn't really close with my family and friends and that I could go without them....I cannot.
The isolation is bad here, only maybe because I haven't felt like making an effort to socialize. My children are doing just fine because there are a multitude of people for them to interact with on a daily basis. Whereas being an adult, it's a little bit different. I hate to sound whiny but that's reality. I have found that because we Black women are typically able to handle things (life, career, family, etc.) on our own we are considered 'bitchy' by women of other races. I have found this to be true with many of the asian women I have met here. If they only knew.
The holidays are right upon us and I am so ready for them to be over. This is the first holiday season that I have spent totally away from family and friends. To boot my husband isn't even here. Being in a foreign country with no family other than my daughters, no close friends and no real support system doesn't feel too good. I have been told, by some of my husband's friends that if I ever need anything that I can ask. But we all know how people say things to be polite but don't really mean them. Yeah.
I have found that some other things were said about me to other family members that has caused them to shy away from me and form another (negative) opinion of me. To that I say that there is always two sides of a story and if you don't hear the other side, then how can you make a definitive judgment about the person. I try to be objective and let what I personally observe about a person to be how I perceive them. In the long run someone may say something to cause you to dislike a person then they go back to their regular relationship with that person and you have messed up because you formed a presumptive opinion. I hope you get what I mean.
Anyway, the weather here is still pretty nice as it's still in the 60's and 70's. In fact Christmas day is supposed to be sunny and 71. Now that's what I call Christmas. I do NOT miss the cold and snow at all. It's pretty to look at sometimes but I always had to get out in it and that's not pretty. I will take tropical weather, year round, to four seasons anyday.
On Okinawa there is a huge population of pregnant women. In fact, there's a joke that there's something in the water because there's so many pregnant women. Not sure what it is but I KNOW it won't be affecting me LOL.
To sum up this post, I am loving the opportunity that we are experiencing living overseas and all of the other things that I am becoming aware of. It seems that everything is so difficult, as far as my feelings right now, but I know that this is making me stronger and helping build my character. In the long run, I will reflect and realize that it wasn't so bad. And that I had to go through what I'm experiencing to get where I'm going. If my life now is a precursor to what I will be experiencing in the future, then I am so ready!
hang it there. although not the same, friends and family are only a skye, IM, or email away. I would say call, but I'm sure that's expensive, lol.
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